When we are in training, therapists study many different treatment modalities. Here are some them:
That's just the beginning...
I started using Emotionally Focused Therapy because it is a highly researched, effective and evidence based therapy. It helps partners learn to reach out to each other more effectively, increasing openness, empathy trust and connection.
It helps address the core questions we often ask ourselves about our most important relationship:
"Do I matter deeply to my partner?"
"Will he or she be there for me when I need them most?"
"Do I fee safe and secure enough in this relationship to be my full and authentic self?"
These questions are often at the root of what couples fight about - the emotional bond and the safety and security of the relationship. When we feel that the answer to one of the above questions may be "No" it can cause us to feel isolated and afraid.
Here is a list of some of the things we do in Emotionally Focused Therapy:
Emotionally focused therapy doesn't have to be with a 'couple' only. A mother and daughter or family group, even friends or business partners who are having trouble communicating can benefit. Statistics show that this type of therapy has a success rate of up to 70%.
We learn how to create a safe environment so we can talk about what's going on inside of us... to share our inner world with our partner. We also learn how to express ourselves more effectively so that we feel 'heard' and the other person doesn't feel attacked. When this is working, we dare to come close again... we feel like our partner 'gets' us.
The next part is key... We also learn how to replace criticism and blame with appreciation and negotiation. You'll be surprised at how easy this might be for you and how much better you'll feel.
At one time you had a great positive feedback loop going. We can try to get that back for you.
New skills and habits can be developed. You can be happier.
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