Dealing with the Holiday Blues?

By Guest Blogger Sharon Coulter, M.A., MFTi, RT/CT

As we move through the holiday season, people are often stressed out and hurting. What's missing in life may come into sharper focus at this time of year. A common struggle is  that 'shoulds' may not have been fulfilled. For example, "I 'should' have a certain career, or be married, or 'should not' be divorced! I 'should' have this or that celebration, or the perfect family!'

If you know you’re prone to the holiday blues, realize you’re not alone and that there are steps you can take to help you feel more in control and even thrive during these celebrations.

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• If you're alone, socialize or volunteer through a church or community center where you can be with others. Not only will this help you feel more connected, helping others raises our own sense of purpose and gives perspective.
• Exercise every day – either outdoors or at the gym. Working out is the best way to increase the natural endorphins that make us feel happier.
• Teach yourself some meditative belly breathing to center yourself when anxiety arises.
  
• Minimize your TV time and choose programs that are uplifting and make you laugh.
  
• Enjoy holiday foods but make sure you eat plenty of greens and fruits as well.
  
• Maximize self care – do things that make you feel good about yourself.
  
• Remember your friendship and kindness are the most important gifts you can give to others.

The good news is that in allowing ourselves to feel and share difficult feelings, we can move
through them and live a more authentic and meaningful life. This is one of the best gifts we
can give ourselves.