Communication Exercise for Couples
by Cynthia M. Braden, MFT
Now that you have survived Valentine's Day, I hope it went well and you feel rejuvenated in your relationship, with positive memories and good feelings to reflect on.
Even if everything didn't go as perfectly as you might have hoped, I encourage you to reflect on the the things you love and appreciate about this relationship. I wanted to give you a few exercises to help practice this attitude, so that you and your partner can understand each other better.
We all want to feel like our partner "gets" us. That they love and appreciate us. Here's the exercise...
1. Turn off all media, get rid of distractions
2. Completing the exercise over a meal is fine
1. One of the things I appreciate most about you is...
2. How can I show you more support and encouragement in the way you like?
3. When do you feel most appreciated?
4. What do you like best about our life together?
5. How can I help you feel more happy?
6. Are you worried or anxious about anything you would like to share?
7. Are you angry about anything right now?
8. I trust you most when __________________.
9. I feel great about us when ______________________.
10. I love you best when...
11. What is your idea of romance?
12. What is your idea of a good relationship?
13. I feel most attracted to you when...
14. Tell me about your fantasies and desires.
As you and your partner are listening to each other talk about these topics, notice it's focused on what we like, what we are wanting to create more of, and setting aside everything that's 'wrong' for the moment.
I hope you'll keep it light and positive. Practice the listening responses I talked about in the other blogs. If it starts to devolve into a fight, or you don't feel like bothering... we can help. It's worth the effort to try to make things better.
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